Our MOST stubborn F.E.A.R.

AT ONE POINT 'something happened'... and we were hurt so much that from that day on our protective mechanism will kick in to PROTECT ourselves from it ever happening again.

It gets expressed in many ways and in IT Contract you can tell if it is ACTIVE in you. Do you ever notice when in the presence of colleagues better, more competent, more popular, more influential than you.. how you

won't speak up
won't volunteer
won't offer
won't suggest
keep thoughts to self
won't commit
won't ask
won't accept responsibility
remain distant
won't compete
won't share
won't explain
won't risk no
won't be upfront

OR if you feel you are being nudged to step to the edge of your comfort zone that you step back, watch, listen, analyse, figure it out, think before you allow yourself to expose yourself to full view?

The 'threat' we are protecting ourselves from is a variant of the fear of abandonment. This happened so long ago that it now operates subconsciously unnoticeable deep within us as part of our survival mechanism. Its often something we question because its clear that we will NOT be harmed that it COSTS us massively but cannot put our finger on it.... and get frustrated and bewildered when we find we are unable to move ourselves forward...

These suggest fear of abandonment lurks strongly active within that ends up costing us money, position, influence, opportunity, growth, happiness in our Contracting Career.